Save the Date
Save the dates are an announcement of your big news and are sent six months before the event. A year in advance is appropriate for destination events to accommodate traveling guests.
The Formula
♥ Event Date (Weekday, Month Day, Year)
♥ Names of the Bride and Groom
♥ City and State of the Event
Optional
♥ A website to keep guests up to date on details
Traditional
Please save the date of
Weekday, Month Day, Year
for the wedding/marriage of
Bride’s Name
and Groom’s Name
City, State
Formal invitation to follow
Creative
We’re getting hitched!
Bride and Groom
are excited to announce their wedding on
Weekday, Month Day, Year
City, State
invitation to follow
www.websitename.com
Invitation
Invitations are sent six-eight weeks before the event. Two months in advance is appropriate for destination events to accommodate traveling guests. They are sent as part of an invitation suite.
The Formula
♥ Who is hosting the wedding
♥ Names of the Bride and Groom
♥ Date and Time
♥ Ceremony Venue
♥ City and State of the Event
♥ Reception Location
Optional
♥ A website to keep guests up to date on details
♥ Attire
Click HERE to view the invitation wording and etiquette guide for sample wording and useful tips.
Reception Card
A reception card is traditionally included in the invitation suite when the reception is at a separate location from the ceremony. Alternatively, reception information can be included on the invitation itself.
The Formula
♥ Time
♥ Venue Name
♥ Date and Time
♥ Street Address, City, and State
Optional
♥ Attire
Traditional
Reception at hour o’clock
Venue Name
Street Address
City, State
Creative
Dinner and dancing immediately following the ceremony
Venue Name
City, State
Wedding Website
Wedding websites are great for sharing important information about your event and can be included on save the dates, invitations, thank you notes, or even as a card all its own.
Accommodations Card
An accommodations card is an optional addition to the invitation suite. It can be replaced by a wedding website or combined with the directions and related events information.
The Formula
♥ Hotel Name(s)
♥ Street Address, City, and State
♥ Phone Number and/or Website
Optional
♥ Map
Directions
A directions card is an optional addition to the invitation suite. It can be replaced by a wedding website or combined with the accommodations and related events information.
The Formula
♥ Written directions via several different routes to the various locations
Optional
♥ Illustrated map of the area including locations of wedding related events
♥ Sites and attractions and/or meaningful locations to the couple
Related Events
A related events card is an optional addition to the invitation suite, but is often necessary when planning a destination event with various activities. It can be replaced by a wedding website or combined with the accommodations and directions information.
The Formula
♥ Wedding Events
♥ Dates and Times
♥ Venues
♥ Addresses
Optional
♥ Illustrated map of the area including locations of wedding related events
♥ Sites and attractions and/or meaningful locations to the couple
Rehearsal dinner invitations, morning after brunch invitations, and other events with a limited guest list should be handled as separate cards. These can be included in specific guests' invitations or sent separately.
RSVP Card
An RSVP (Respondez S’il Vous Plait) card is traditionally included in the invitation suite. The return-by date should be a month before the event, but it is always best to first talk with vendors who may need a headcount sooner.
The Formula
♥ Return By Date
♥ Space for guests' names
♥ Accept/Decline
Optional
♥ Meal Selection
♥ Space for guests to comment
Traditional
The favor of a reply is requested before Date.
M_________________________________
______ Accepts with pleasure
______ Declines with regret
___ Beef ___ Fish ___Vegetarian
Creative
Kindly reply by Date.
Name(s) _________________________________
___Waiting with bells on
___Wish I could be there
Message to the newlyweds: ___________________________________________________________________
Addressing
It is important to hand address the envelopes to personally invite your guests. Handwriting indicates to your guests that they are receiving something special. Hiring a calligrapher (or me!) always adds a nice touch, but it is also acceptable to ask a friend or relative with nice handwriting to address your envelopes for you. Make sure to use a felt tip archival pen instead of a ballpoint.
♥ Use home addresses.
♥ Use the appropriate Mr., Mrs., Ms., or Miss before a full name.
♥ Children are placed together on their own line beneath the parents. Girls under 18 are addressed as “Miss,” while boys are not addressed as “Mr.” until 18.
♥ Married couples using the same last name are written as "Mr. and Mrs." with the man's first and last name (i.e. Mr. and Mrs. Gary Moll).
♥ Married or unmarried couples using different last names are placed on the same line, in alphabetical order, but using "Ms." to address a woman (i.e. Ms. Deborah Foltz and Mr. Rick Long). Unmarried couples are addressed in the same manner, except each name is placed on a separate line.
♥ Married same-sex couples using different last names are placed on the same line, in alphabetical order, along with titles (i.e. Ms. Madeline Jones and Ms. Tonia Smith or Mr. Matthew Black and Mr. John Stone). If the couple shares the same last name, then refer to them in the plural as "Messrs" or "Madames," followed by the double first name and common last. (i.e. Messrs Matthew and John Stone or Madames Madeline and Tonia Smith).
♥ Women who are widowed should be addressed according to their late husband's name, with "Mrs." as the title (i.e. Mrs. Arthur McDonald).
♥ Unless a divorced woman is using their maiden name, they are still addressed as "Mrs.", but with their first names and former married last name (i.e. Mrs. Jane Cronson).
♥ Medical doctors are addressed by their abbreviated title on the envelope, however guests with PhDs are referred to with the appropriate "Mr.," "Mrs." or "Ms."
♥ Couples who are both medical doctors are addressed as "The Doctors" plus the shared last name (i.e. The Doctors Conley). However, if each uses a different last name, then address them individually as "Dr." plus their full name and in alphabetical order (i.e. Dr. Samantha Conley and Dr. Michael Smith).
♥ Other professional titles used are "Honorable" (judges), military designations, and religious titles.
♥ Guests 18 or older should receive their own invitations.
Mailing
It is important to bring one fully assembled invitation to your local post office to be weighed and assessed by a post office employee. They will then be able to give you an estimated cost of postage. Envelope size, shape, thickness, and embellishments (like wax stamps) can affect the cost of postage, so this step is crucial in making sure you are purchasing the right postage.
Thank Yous
Traditionally, thank you cards are sent within two weeks of receiving a gift or within a month after returning from a honeymoon.
The Formula
♥ Thank You
♥ A few words about the gift or how you plan to use it
♥ Accept/Decline
Optional
♥ A photograph of the gift in use
Birth Announcement
Birth announcements are a great way to introduce your new family member and are always best when written with your own creativity. They are sent within the baby’s first six months. For custom announcements, I suggest contacting me a few months before your delivery date to create a design. Once the baby arrives, any details can be sent to me to finalize the design and print. This will ensure that the announcements get into the mail quickly after the bab(ies) arrive. Pre-ordering envelopes to address and stamp before the bab(ies)’ birth can be a great time saver.
The Formula
♥ Parent(s)’ Full Names
♥ Bab(ies)’ Full Name(s)
♥ Birth Date
♥ Birth Weight
♥ Length
Optional
♥ Time
♥ Place of Birth
♥ Siblings
♥ A short poem, popular phrase, or religious passage.
♥ A personal note to certain close relatives
Traditional
We welcome with love…
Baby’s Full Name
Birth Date
Weight
Length
Parent(s)’ Full Name(s)
Siblings’ Names
Creative
Our home has grown by two feet…
Baby’s Full Name
Birth Date
Weight
Length
Time
Place of Birth
Parent(s)’ Name(s)
Siblings’ Names
It's a Girl/Boy!
Conor and Brittany have a new baby sister!
Our new love (Baby Name)...
We joyfully announce the birth of...
Look who dropped in! Please share our joy at the arrival of our son/daughter...
We welcome with great joy into our home and into our hearts…
Twins/Multiples
It's Twins!
Baby’s Full Name
Weight
Length
Baby’s Full Name
Weight
Length
Birth Date
Parent(s)’ Full Name(s)
We've been doubly blessed!
Two sets of hands two sets of eyes! Twins are such a delightful surprise!
We became an instant family of four when we welcomed our precious twins aboard!
Adoption
Joyfully we announce the adoption of our son/daughter Name
Born: Date Placed into our loving arms on Date
Weight
Length
Share this happiness with us!
It is with great joy that we announce the adoption of Name
…and now we welcome him/her into our hearts
Parents’ Names are delighted to announce the adoption of their son/daughter
Name
Born on Date
Adopted on Date
(S)He wasn't expected (S)He was selected!
Name
Born: Date
(S)He came into our hearts and into our home on Date
We welcome him/her with much love and joy
Parents’ Names